On the surface, this statement suggests that the discomfort and anguish we experience are directly linked to our attachment to the ego, which itself is an illusory construct. When we identify with our thoughts, our personal history, and our perceived self – the ego – we create a false sense of separation from the present moment and from the deeper reality of Being.

In the non-dual tradition, particularly as articulated by Eckhart Tolle, the ego is not seen as an inherent part of your true nature but as a mental construct, a bundle of conditioned thoughts and emotions. This egoic self is inherently insecure because it is based on impermanence and comparison. The 'pain' arises from its constant struggle to maintain its perceived existence, to defend its narratives, and to acquire and control. This struggle is the 'price' for living within the 'illusion' of a separate self, rather than recognizing the unified, formless consciousness that you truly are. The pain is the friction generated by the ego's resistance to the ever-present, unconditioned Now, which is the only reality.